March 26, 2010
Do nannies turn boys into future adulterers?
Okay, so as Freudian as this article sounds, it makes total sense! Funny coincidence that Dr. Friedman is the psychiatrist claiming such behavior? Basically, children (especially boys) who are raised by their mother AND a nanny learn at an early age that their needs can be met by multiple women. If another woman is taking care of a child's most basic needs; feeding, clothing, bathing, why wouldn't he believe that its okay to have needs met by more than one woman? Its a totally subconscious thing but a valid one at that....
".....This dual-woman life, one for family and one for catering to his every need, might become a set pattern in his mind, so that when he grows up and feels like his needs are not being met, he strays beyond the home."
Then there's the flip side to the argument. ".....Babies don't form attachments solely to their mothers — they become attached also to fathers, grandparents, nannies, child-care providers, older brothers and sisters, or anyone else who interacts with them socially and frequently participates in care routines like feeding and bathing." These relationships are healthy and part of normal development. And becoming attached to a nanny doesn't equal becoming detached from a mother, or that the two are interchangeable. "A nanny or other person is added to the existing relationships most babies have."
You can easily dispute both sides of this argument. I find it fascinating, living in a society where nannies are ever so present, it makes me question the future lives of my current 4 and 5 yr. old students. For their sake - say it ain't so!
For the full article via Time click here
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